“You’ve changed little bird.” – Sandor Clegane
“Without Little Finger and Ramsey and all the rest, I would have stayed a little bird all my life.” – Sansa Stark
– Game of Thrones Season 8 Episode 4
I’ll not write a long diatribe about all the mean things I’ve had done to me in my life as they’re not the point of this post and they’re so negative anyway. I’m all for the good vibes only and I don’t have to give you bad stories to talk about the good growth they brought about.
The POINT of this post is how fiercely resolved, grateful and empathetic it’s all made me. Every painful or hurtful experience has helped me see myself more clearly. I may have reacted negatively myself. I may have dragged myself to the interaction because of unhealthy boundaries…ignoring red flags…saying “Yes” when I really needed to say “No”. In some cases, it had absolutely nothing to do with me. In those cases, my confidence and self love grew because I learnt to detach the bullshit people did to me from my value as a person. I learnt this important equation —> What people do to me IS NOT EQUAL TO my value.
I love that conversation between Clegane and Sansa so much. I’ve spent most of my life like Sansa in Season 1 of Game of Thrones: innocent and believing that people always had my best interest at heart. You know what though..all the people who broke my trusting heart made me better.
I remember reading two books back to back on becoming a bitch…who knew there were even books teaching you how to be a bitch?! But being a bitch for me meant being strong and being wise enough to set boundaries, obey red flags, say No and mean it and LOVE myself FIRST so that I could LOVE others in the most meaningful way, with my heart FULL instead of EMPTY.
Here’s to little birds flying out of the nest..the best is yet to come! 🦅🦅🦅